I have to brag on my husband for a little bit. I must say in my opinion I have the best husband. I thought we had a good marriage because we didn't fight very often, we respected each others feelings and we liked being around each other. But, I didn't realize how good it could be. I must admit that we had been arguing more often towards the end of my pregnancy and right after the delivery. Satan was just finding ways to attack us and to stir things up. They were usually over something small or finances (surprise!)
About a month ago, Ryan and I went to see the movie Fireproof. It was a great movie! You have to expect the acting to not be wonderful but the content and the message they were portraying was excellent. We were so encouraged. I wasn't so much thinking that it applied to my marriage but was more thinking how that movie could help so many marriages in trouble.
Well, about a week later Ryan ordered the "Love Dare" book and he also ordered the DVD Fireproof Study to hopefully start with his guy group that he meets with every other week. He went ahead and started reading the Love Dare book and it is amazing. I haven't read it and in fact he keeps it in his truck so I can't see what each day is about. If you've seen the movie you kinda know what it is all about but if you haven't here is a little run down. Kirk Cameron is asked by his father to hold off on getting a divorce for 40 days and to read this book. The book is 40 days worth of "dares" so to speak. Things like don't say anything negative on this day and on the next day call her spontaneously just to see how she is and if she needs anything. Things like that and every day will give a little devotional, a dare and scripture to support you that day.
So, Ryan has shared with me that he has gotten so much out of this book. He realized within the first few days what was lacking in our marriage and what he didn't want to happen to our marriage. He realized that there was selfishness (which I can say that I have noticed my own selfishness so much lately) and that he had decided that he wanted our marriage to be so much deeper. What he did not want to happen is for us to wake up 15-20 years from now and be cohabitants. He expressed that there was so much more for our marriage and he just didn't want our marriage to be good but GREAT!
What wife doesn't want to hear these things? So, he continues to check in on me during the day, he comes home and immediately sees needs (diapers need changing or I haven't been able to start dinner and he just picks up the slack) and he has gotten me to be truly "in love" again. Not that I wasn't "in love" but I have felt more of what I felt for him in the beginning of our marriage before kids and craziness. I have felt like Ryan has truly become more of a spiritual leader for our home and our marriage. I love that my children are seeing what love looks like especially my daughters. He has encouraged me so much daily with his passion to be this husband God has called him to be. I haven't felt more treasured and set apart than I have in the past few weeks. He is truly and extraordinary husband and father.
So if you are having a hard time in your marriage or even if you aren't I can't express how much this movie and book has helped us and our marriage. I recommend it to any married couple!